Narcissists are known to use sεχ and seduction as a way of luring people into relationships and making people quickly full into lust or love with them. They also use physical touch as a way of emotionally tormenting their partner, by holding back physical affection and attention, and deliberately refusing to engage in sεχual activity as punishment or revenge for something that has upset them.
At a time when empaths need affection the most—when going through a difficult time or are experiencing trauma—narcissists will distance themselves rather than soothe and comfort their partner. Empaths desire physical attention from their partners and it would likely be one of the love languages they need most. This is why it is used as a weapon of control by narcissists, to inflict the greatest amount of damage when their partner is at their most vulnerable.
Narcissists, by contrast, will expect their physical needs to be met at all times, regardless of how their partner is feeling, or how healthy the relationship is at the time. Narcissists are often at either end of the extreme with this one, they either expect physical affection constantly or totally withdraw to cause maximum amount of emotional suffering for their partner.
People generally show love in the same way they would like to receive it (this is the part that empaths struggle the most with). However, the same rule does not always follow through when taking into consideration those with personality disorders.
Empaths can make the fatal mistake of believing other people think and feel the same way they do. They also believe that the more love, compassion, and affection they show toward their partner, the more love, compassion, and affection they will receive in return.
It doesn’t matter if empaths are giving all their time, attention, and adoration unconditionally, they will still become drained of energy by giving so much and not only not receiving anything in return, but not replenishing themselves through self-love, compassion, and adoration. Empaths are so busy loving and tending to the needs of others that their levels of self-care and self-preservation are drastically low, and this can lead to low self-esteem as well as poor emotional, mental, and physical health.
The most important thing to remember in all of this is that what we want and desire isn’t necessarily the same as what our partner might want and desire, and just because we express ourselves in a certain way in our intimate relationships, it does not automatically mean that this will be returned sincerely and genuinely—particularly within relationships that involve empaths and narcissists.